I believe that as a collective, we need to practice continuous self-love ~ without it, we cannot love others! Fear not, self-love does not make you selfish and /or prone to senseless entitlement. It is tho, complex to define, and so today, I focus on one important aspect of it : self-love as an ability to admit, support, and make space to tolerate and successfully respond to our existential and emotional needs.
Successfully responding to our needs means different things to all of us and it is deeply personal.
It is safe to agree that we all have a need to be seen, understood, longed for and be related to ~ as much as a need to participate in life in meaningful fulfilling ways.
Yes, another aspect that must be uniquely defined and comes without a manual!
If we take then self-love to mean tolerating and learning to respond to our needs, we can imagine ourselves becoming better able to welcome another's needs and desires without feeling threatened or as if we have to provide something for them.
Self-love is not only an invitation to become interested in who we are and who we are becoming but it requires us to see ourselves as an ever-expanding unfinished process.
Hint : our self-hatred despises our humanness, imperfection, vulnerability, sensitivity (ability to feel and respond) and our constant growth!
Self- love is about recognizing that we are enough now and celebrates and recognizes our beauty, power, and uniqueness. And when we keep at it, it will even help us love our imperfections!
Learning to embrace the huge appetite our passion and sex have as women, is as important, as us learning to adore the gift of our non-linear mind, heart, and body.
We (sadly) know the pain, desperation, disease, numbness, and craziness we experience when we hate the above mentioned and / or insist on fueling our failed attempts to try and hide, diminish, control, and / or deny our nature. One reason for referencing self-love as a revolution is because it will make us look at all the ways in which we do not love ourselves. Naturally, that will bring to the surface what we've been ignoring ~ and it is bound to feel chaotic. Little do we know or trust that to be an opportunity to change things!
Self-love demands that we dismantle numerous stories and beliefs as much as challenge, change, and act in new ways. Some of our beliefs are so rigid that we literally must (internally) over-throw them.
We are *alive, powerful, vulnerable, real, and constantly transforming*
A true commitment to self-love creates deep changes in ourselves and around us : it is a potent revolution that makes any heart beat again. So, take a deep breath and one step at a time :
you are enough now!